Monday, August 31, 2009

BACK TO SCHOOL

I have spent three-fourths of my life associated with school—either I was going, teaching, supporting my husband while he was gone summers for grad school, or walking through the school years with my daughters. My life was regulated more by a school calendar than the January-December calendar. Now, after a break, I am beginning a new chapter -- my granddaughter Elli has begun kindergarten. The videotape in my mind rewound of school days with my girls as I listened to my daughter Heather talk about a teacher assignment, school shopping and open house. Elli talked to us on the phone and webcam and told us about her first day of school. She mentioned that they “didn’t learn anything” and that they only have “jobs” to do. She was the snack leader. She also said that recess was her favorite part of the day. I laughed to myself as she described the playground equipment. Educators just love those kinds of assessments and observations, as do parents who pay tuition and school taxes. :)

So it is back to school. Some of you boomer grandmas have grandchildren who have started school too. When my grandchildren were born, I chose a life verse that I would pray for them. Now that Elli has begun school, I decided to choose a school verse for this year. I figure that her first year is foundational—establishing her approach to learning in a structured environment, a new schedule, living out respect for her teacher and classmates, her attitude…so many aspects critical to starting off on the right foot. Beyond that, it occurred to me that she is also spending fewer hours under the influence of her parents and accumulating more hours under the influence of others. The verse I chose is, “Teach me your ways O Lord, guide me in your truth; give me an undivided heart that I may fear your name.” (Psalm 86:11) My “biggest” prayer is that Elli’s heart is connected to God’s and that she walks in His truth during her entire time at school—in her work ethic (for her “job” LOL), relationships and in her attitudes. Actually, that is a great prayer for her life.

What are your thoughts? Do you want to choose a verse for your grandchildren? Tell us what it is and why.

Marilyn www.marilynnutter.com

Monday, August 24, 2009

WHERE DID IT GO?
Judy and I were talking last week and throwing lots of ideas around for our blog. I was in the middle of a sentence and stopped. She waited quite patiently for me to finish my sentence, when I said, “I totally lost my thought and what I was saying. Where did it go?” She backtracked with me, “You were saying____,” in an effort to help me; not to mention that we were thinking of some great topics for our blog and she hoped that I’d remember. We burst out laughing because this happens to us all the time. Well, the thought vanished and honestly, I really don’t know if it ever surfaced because I can’t remember!

Now, I worked in long term health care as a speech-language pathologist with patients who had memory impairment, so I am definitely not making light of the painful memory loss among the geriatric population. I am not talking about holding a set of keys in my hand and not knowing what to do with them. That is serious stuff. I am talking about not remembering where I last put my keys, or my glasses, or most recent notes from my conversations with Judy. (By the way, we have determined that it does take two brains to write a blog)

What about you? Do you ask, “Where did it go?” Ah…one of the new chapters of being a boomer woman and grandma. Personally, as we age, I think we have much more to remember and more to keep track of. Does that count as an excuse? After all, aren’t we the women who try to keep everything and everyone together? We are sooo good at multi-tasking and have lists for lists.

So, boomer grandmas, what’s your “Where did it go?” question? Is it:
Where did time go?
Where did the day go?
Where did my life go?
Where did my career go?
Where did the weekend go?
Where did my baby grandchildren go and now they’re in school?
Where did _______ go?

Let’s hear your question. And, would you share your thoughts on your answer, too?

Marilyn ~ www.marilynnutter.com

Sunday, August 16, 2009

"AGE IS JUST A NUMBER" FOR BOOMER GRANDMAS

I’m curious to hear what you feel about the statement, “age is just a number!” Boomer women I know want to believe this, and want to live life with this attitude. They sincerely want to get in the habit of living right now, with an appreciation for every day. Most likely we're committed to this because the reality has hit us that we won’t live forever—like we all thought we would in 1969!

When I became a grandma, I couldn’t deny that I had gotten older. With it came the wonderful reward of holding the child of my child. What's better? But realities subtly creep in to remind me I may have to make adjustments due to my age, and my first thought is that I really don’t want to face it when it comes to outdoor activities I enjoy! On a recent seven-day rafting trip I went down the Colorado River in the Grand Canyon. After several days, my knees and lower legs swelled up and were tender, (my legs didn’t even swell up when I was pregnant!) … and the challenging side hikes I had really looked forward to became much harder. This was hard evidence of the physical reality of getting older. Ugh!

And playing Bunko last week, some of the girls were talking about celebrating their 15th wedding anniversaries, and I said, “Next year I’ll be celebrating my 40th!" I’m proud of that, but at the same time emotionally the number struck me, “Just when did that happen? ...and when did my oldest granddaughter turn eight?” The years say I’m older, but I don’t feel that way. So let’s chat. What are your thoughts about “age is just a number?” Bottom line, it’s probably all about accepting things we have to, and realizing we can choose to have a positive attitude as we face “the stuff” of getting older. The dilemma—sometimes it’s easier said than done!”

Judy http://www.judydippel.com/






Bios: Judy and Marilyn

Judy Dippel is the author of Refreshing Hope in God: A Mother’s Journey of Joy and Pain, The Art of Authentic Friendship: Real Women, Real Challenges, Real Solutions.

She is a contributing author in But Lord, I was Happy Shallow, Laundry Tales to Lighten Your Load, and The One Year Life Verse Devotional. Her nine-week small group study on the topic of postpartum depression will be released by Care Point Ministries in 2009.

Judy is a registered speaker with CLASS Services, Inc.,
http://www.classervices.com/ and http://www.ministrywomen.net/ and http://womensministry.com/. A frequent retreat, workshop, and conference presenter, Judy’s experience includes radio, television, and newspaper interviews. Contact Judy via her website at http://www.judydippel.com/.

Marilyn Nutter is the author of three devotional books: Dressed up Moms’ Devotions to Go (Extreme Diva Media Inc., 2006, Tea Lovers’ Devotions to Go (EDM, Inc.2007) and Diva Delights Devotions to Go (EDM, Inc., 2009). In addition, Marilyn has been a contributor to Chicken Soup for the Mother of Preschooler’s Soul, Life on Purpose for Mothers (Harrison House); Simple Joy, Girlfriend 2Girlfriend, Laundry Tales to Lighten Your Load (Evergreen Press), and The Ultimate Mom (HCI, 2009).

Marilyn served as a Mentor-Mom for MOPS and co-taught and coordinated a large group women’s Bible study at her local church for several years. Marilyn delights in speaking to women’s church and community groups about finding extraordinary treasures in ordinary and challenging days. She is a listed speaker on http://www.ministrywomen.net/ Contact Marilyn via her website at
http://www.marilynnutter.com/.