Monday, October 26, 2009

Influence

I’m reading a great book, The Culture-Wise Family …Upholding Christian Values in a Mass Media World, by Ted Baehr and Pat Boone. I normally wouldn’t pick up a book by Pat Boone, but I met Ted Baehr at a conference in August and found one of his talks mind-boggling. More information on the topic was in his book, so I bought it. He also personally autographed it to me. :) Pat Boone, you say? Well, he is a nice guy but somehow I can’t put Pat Boone in the same sentence without Tutti Frutti, so it’s a distraction. I mean, really...Tutti Fruitti? Enough said…

Ted’s book is about the mass media’s influence on our kids-in my case and yours-grandchildren. Our culture has moved from Roy Rogers and Dale Evans singing Happy Trails, Ozzie and Harriet and Leave it to Beaver solving the latest crisis in thirty minutes and celebrities completing a sentence without an innuendo or profanity to relativism and a desensitization of values. We no longer blush at provocative dress or wince at profanity spoken by TV characters. Yes, our generation was known for the phrase, “You’ve come a long way baby,” but who imagined how far we would still go?

The mass media definitely influences our family but what about a Boomer grandmother’s influence?
What do you do when you come across important information that threatens the family? Do you share it; “preach”; keep silent; offer your discernment; inform gently; give an opinion; nag, as you watch your adult children make choices that you wouldn’t make?

How do you handle differences as you see their parenting styles or values different from yours?

Our motive, (we hope) is influence, not interference, but how?

What do you see as your role as one who can influence your grandchildren, not just regarding the media, but in other areas?

How do you influence and where do you influence? What opportunities do you have to influence? Let’s talk.

Marilyn

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Tell Us Books Women Love!

With winter just around the corner, I like to always have a good book on my nightstand. Since I write mostly nonfiction, I enjoy reading it, too. But to "get away from it all," I like to read good, entertaining fiction. My mom just gave me a book, "Annie Freeman's Fabulous Funeral." I haven't begun to read it yet and I'm not ready to recommend it, but I'll let you know in a couple of weeks. But it does sound very different, funny, enlightening ..and perhaps heart-tugging! Seems to be about women who meet upon the death of a common friend, their adventures, miracles and blessings found amid the grief, and how these women help each other move forward. Has anyone read it?
Let us know if you've read something that you think Boomers particularly relate to and will enjoy. (besides my Authentic Friendship book!!) Marilyn and I, and other bloggers, will enjoy hearing about which book you want every woman you know to read. I'll start piling them on my nightstand...and be set for the winter. Thanks!
Judy

Monday, October 12, 2009

ONE THING TO CELBRATE

Great comments to Judy’s questions on friendship! Thanks to all for sharing and giving us an opportunity to think about our friends--their blessings and the learning experiences that accompany friendships. The winner of our drawing is…Jane! Jane, please contact Judy at jldwrites@comcast.net with your mailing address and she will send you an autographed copy of her book, which by the way is a great read.

I received an email last week from a close friend from my college days. She addressed me by my high school and college nickname. She is the only one who does, and frankly, each time she does, I blink. It is so strange to see that name in print, but it represents a connection that I don’t have with anyone else, a very special part of our friendship and something to celebrate. I felt a tinge of nostalgia (it was an email in response to her birthday) as I realized that this is the only friend who knows this one thing about me and that we have “celebrated” (long-distance for the most part) 45 birthdays with each other.

It got me thinking…what is one thing that you love to “celebrate”? Is it a milestone, a change, a character quality that has developed over the years, an unforgettable experience, ___? Maybe it is something you are striving toward and hasn’t happened yet, but you celebrate each step you take.

Do tell! It can be a personal celebration (about you) or of a friend, or family member who has impacted you. What prompts you to applaud and shout, “Yes!”?

It will be fun to see the kaleidoscope that characterizes boomer women and boomer grandmas. Judy and I are hanging balloons as we wait for you to click “comments.” Then we’ll throw confetti!

Joy!
Marilyn

Sunday, October 4, 2009

Friendship Challenges & Solutions - Prize Drawing

Hi! I know something about you without even knowing you. I know that friends are as good for you as a healthy diet, sleep and exercise. It's true! You may agree, especially in this season of life that good friends are more important than ever. But it's also true that friendship, like all relationships come with challenges and with blessings.

Please comment about what challenges you face with a friend, or what is blessing you today with a friend. From those who comment, we will draw a PRIZE WINNER next Monday, October 12th, and the lucky winner will receive an autographed copy of my book, The Art of Authentic Friendship. (I know you'll love "the solutions" to friendship challenges addressed in the book)

Comment on any of the following friendship challenges: (actual chapter titles)

TIME: "The number one challenge we all face is finding time for each other."
OBSTACLES: "We are different. I fit somewhere between an agnostic and an atheist."
ANGUISH: "I feel like I've been fired as your soul mate."
HEALTHY CHOICES: "Needy women wear me out."
YOU: "I never feel good enough."
RELATIONSHIPS: "I want the freedom to be me without editing."

Thank you! We will announce the winner on this blog, next Monday, October 12.
In friendship,
Judy
www.judydippel.com